Kepler's "Terms of Friendship"

I stay on Do Not Disturb. Additionally, I have all push notifications disabled for Discord. You are welcome to message me at any given time - it might just take a while for me to respond. Please be patient.

I typically use an "energy bar" on my Discord status. It raises or lowers depending on a variety of factors; my present emotional state, my level of physical energy, my level of chronic pain, and other things. You are welcome to message me at any time, but I may sound more or less engaged/excited if my energy is very high or very low.

I am a weekend brunch employee. I am not online during the mornings Friday through Sunday, and intermittently absent throughout the week for other call-in shifts. I work every holiday; do not expect me to respond on American holidays.

I am willing to befriend anyone regardless of age. I myself am 25 years old. If you have any qualms about that, either tell me or don't befriend me.

I don't care if someone under 18 has a crush on me, but I will not reciprocate such feelings or advances.

I don't care what your political stances are, nor what you choose to share with me. I will care if you take the time out of your day to deliberately harm other people.

I will not get angry at you for voicing whatever opinions you hold. I value hearing and trying to understand different perspectives, even if we ultimately do not agree.

There are obviously limits to what counts as a tolerable opinion. If something comes up that runs too deep to "agree to disagree" about, I will simply tell you and we will go our separate ways.

I am an incredibly blunt person. This does not mean "brutally honest." I believe 'brutal honesty' is a facade people use to excuse them treating other people terribly. I say what I mean, and I mean what I say, and it goes no deeper than that.

Relevant: Bluntness in Autism & ADHD

If something I said or a way I phrased comes off wrong, tell me. There is no need for passive aggression - simply voice what made you upset and why, and I will do my best to adjust accordingly.

In turn, I am openly vocal when people say things that rub me the wrong way. In some cases I may take a day or two to calm down and get other opinions from other friends before attempting to breach the topic.

Aside, I am also an overwhelmingly affectionate person. I love sending my friends hearts, kisses, "I love you"s and more. If this makes you uncomfortable for any reason, tell me and I will do my best to lay off of it.

I struggle with constant name changes. I do my best to use alternating pronouns when it is someone's preference, but it is extremely difficult for me to keep up with and reflect day-by-day or week-by-week name changes.

I have zero-tolerance for violating boundaries. If I say that I'm done with a conversation, or that I want to be left alone, or that I won't talk to someone, that is the end of it. Attempts to contact despite this knowledge will be met with total hostility.

Be nice to my friends. Or Else. ☝️